Feel Good, Look Good
Lately I have been struggling with where I am at in life. I feel behind my peers when it comes to having a career, but I recognize that I have traveling and outdoors experience that I would not trade. So here I am at 27, living with my parents, figuring it out, and feeling stuck. With my circumstances laid out before me every morning, I get to decide how I approach the day. Like picking out an outfit, I decide if I clothe myself in complaints, frustration, and problems, or optimism, hope, and persistence. Recently this has been a hard battle and I flip-flop throughout the day.
When it comes to other people, I couldn’t care less what they think; this situation is deeply personal and I feel I have to prove something to myself. I question my decision-making in the past and become frustrated that I am well rounded but not experienced in any one thing. I am constantly changing my mind about grad school and what area of study interests me most. I feel like I have a slim chance for the career jobs I apply to. I am a systematic thinker and a problem solver, but thrive as a creative leader. I want to make the world better, but that doesn’t necessarily earn you money. I know myself, but I don’t know my purpose. I want a job that pays a living wage in order to live simply, buy quality, and travel occasionally.
I recognize these feelings and questions and find that I have two options. I can either dwell in the negativity or I can remind myself to continue seeking, and to value the life experiences I have under my belt. I just have to keep doing and growing, and when I start to question who, what, where, when, and why, I simply have to persevere. It’s similar to when you’re trying a new look: you have to wear it and see what happens. You simply can’t just wonder.
I truly believe that the better you know yourself, the better you know your style. To take it a step further, I will classify myself as an emotional dresser. When I am feeling good, I have fun composing outfits and coming up with new looks. Conversely, when I am struggling and my eyes feel heavy and my brain feels tight, I just want leggings and my 15-year-old sweatshirt. When I throw this on then it’s truly a lot easier to get back into bed and ignore the world.
Looking good comes from within and radiates outward into the universe. Thoughts in mind produce after their kind, and sometimes to truly change your thoughts you have to take action. Use the act of getting dressed - style something fun, pull out a sentimental piece, put on our favorite lipstick - to show the beauty within. When you get up in the morning, I challenge you to pick the outfit of optimism, hope, and persistence or whatever those positive words are for you. Use your clothing as way to remind you of how far you have already come, as inspiration for where you want to go, and to help define how you want to feel. That’s what I am doing … with some yoga mixed in.